Category Archives for relationships
The problem with saying ‘I’m fine’
You bump into a friend and they ask ‘how are things?’ ‘All good’ you respond. Never mind that you had an awful morning, a terrible night’s sleep and you are stressed about x and y. There’s this thing, in British culture particularly, of never saying what’s really going on, a bit like talking about the […]
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The biggest myth about change and why it scares you
You probably already know, deep down, that something has to change, that you’ve got to a place where things are can’t go on as they are. But at the heart there’s this niggling question, a fear even. If I change, will people still like me? Will those I’m close to still love me? I’ve been […]
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The real reason you don’t go to counselling
When you look at yourself, you wonder are you really that broken? Or you think, Counselling? That’s way too self-indulgent. You can sort yourself out. You should be able to get through this (whatever this is) without help. I mean, only people with ‘serious’ problems go to counselling. Anyhow, what would your family think? It’s […]
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Are you afraid of falling in love? Here’s why
This one’s a tough one. There’s a voice inside that tells you, you’re not worth it, you keep screwing up, you’re not attractive enough, you’re not smart enough, you’re not successful enough (and I can guess that list goes on and on). I know that voice. It is a killer. It kills your self-esteem, it […]
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When lightning strikes: 5 myths about new relationships you shouldn’t miss
When all is bliss Have you ever been in love? I don’t know about you, but when I’ve fallen (interesting word that!) it has felt intoxicating, exciting, overwhelming. No wonder that sometimes, it can feel addictive just to stay with that part of being in a relationship: the maximum buzz zone. I’m starting with the […]
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