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how to deal with guilt and people pleasnig

Say bye to the guilt…

I hear it all the time. ‘I can’t get over the guilt.’  ‘I can’t break free of the self-criticism.’  ‘I feel trapped in my own shame.’  People tell me they wish they could Iive free of those feelings.  So they could get on with their lives without being pulled back into the difficulty of living with guilt which is always […]

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definitive guide to parental narcissistic abuse

The definitive guide to parental narcissistic abuse (and recovery)

You may already be thinking, why does your relationship with your parents feel so out? Life might feel overwhelming, confusing and lonely as a consequence. Sometimes, it’s hard to know what you feel or how to shake off the anxiety and second guessing. If you’ve landed here, you might already have an inkling that one […]

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how to get your needs met and heard

The real reason you don’t get heard

It happens again and again. You express a need. It’s met with denial, outrage or dismissal.  You’re left bewildered. On the verge of collapse or maybe rage. You’re told you come across as controlling or domineering. It’s hard to calibrate how you ask for things, when you aren’t used to doing it. Or have low expectations of getting those needs […]

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how i stopped being a self-help junky

How I stopped being a self-help junky

There was a time in my life when I would never ask for help. Even now, it’s not my first instinct. I’m used to sorting out my problems by myself. Call me a self-help specialist, if you will. Ironic for a therapist, I’d say. You might say it’s independence. Or some might describe it as stubbornness. At the heart, though, I think […]

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difficult sister and brother relationship

How to deal with a difficult sister or brother [video]

You might fantasize about having the ideal sibling relationship. But the reality? Your relationship with a brother or sister isn’t what you want it to be. You were hoping for an ally, someone who gets what being in your family feels like. Instead you’ve got someone who picks a fight, sides with mum or dad. Or just […]

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30 signs you were raised by a narcissist - matt d fox

Raised by a narcissist? 30 startling signs

With all the talk about narcissism and narcissistic abuse, you may be wondering, does this affect me? If your parent was on the more extreme end of the spectrum, there may be little doubt in your mind, that childhood was uncomfortable, complicated, challenging. You may even describe it as abusive. But for many, their experiences were more […]

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