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30 signs you were raised by a narcissist - matt d fox

Raised by a narcissist? 30 startling signs

With all the talk about narcissism and narcissistic abuse, you may be wondering, does this affect me? If your parent was on the more extreme end of the spectrum, there may be little doubt in your mind, that childhood was uncomfortable, complicated, challenging. You may even describe it as abusive. But for many, their experiences were more […]

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How to deal with gaslighting abuse

Gaslighting: 7 powerful ways to overcome it

This was it. The moment when I thought I had finally lost it. Gone mad.  It was such a simple email, in reply to my own stating straightforward needs. But it got right under the skin. In its simple words, it denied my experience, ignored my truth. It wasn’t that the words were hurtful. Maybe someone […]

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why you attract narcissists

10 reasons you keep attracting narcissists and emotional abusers

It starts off with optimism: This time it will be different.  You won’t get caught out again. A few months pass, and there are some warning signs. The enormous charm that attracted you or the intense attention starts to abate. You get a cold feeling in your stomach which you try to tune out. A […]

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why you self-sabotage

Self-sabotage: why you just can’t help it (and how to break the cycle)

You’ve been meaning to get earlier nights, but 3 box sets later and it’s 2am again. That healthier eating? Ended with the giant box of Celebrations. Or more extreme. That job you had worked so hard to get? You pull out the day before starting, thinking it’s not really you. That tooth niggle. Not worth looking at. Until […]

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definitive guide to parental narcissistic abuse

The definitive guide to parental narcissistic abuse (and recovery)

You may already be thinking, why does your relationship with your parents feel so out? Life might feel overwhelming, confusing and lonely as a consequence. Sometimes, it’s hard to know what you feel or how to shake off the anxiety and second guessing. If you’ve landed here, you might already have an inkling that one […]

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14 signs you are numbing out

14 signs that you are numbing out

Something flips inside you. It’s like a switch going. The system is going down. You start to numb out. It’s difficult to think clearly. Maybe your hearing goes a bit fuzzy. You feel like you’re here, but also not. The trigger? Maybe a moment of conflict with a parent, colleague or partner. Maybe someone’s behaviour […]

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amazing truth behind perfectionism

The amazing truth behind overcoming perfectionism

You set yourself high standards. Perfection. The equivalent of the Olympics in your chosen field. Those perfectionism traits? Being the perfect mum, daughter, father, son, colleague. Giving the exceptional presentation. Cooking the most exquisite meal. Choosing the most compelling and thoughtful gift. Anything less would be unthinkable. That drive for perfectionism can be compelling and […]

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hidden downside of people pleasing

The hidden downside of people pleasing

‘I don’t mind’. ‘You choose.’ ‘I’m easy’ ‘Whatever you feel like.’ The words come easily when you’re a people pleaser. The easy-going side to you. The part that doesn’t want to rock the boat, create upset or disappoint. It’s not a particularly nice or flattering description for what goes on when you chose to say […]

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