Category Archives for anxiety
When the world feels unsafe
Ever have that feeling, that whatever you do with other people, you’re bound to be let down in the end? Or do you often think it’s easier to get things done yourself, rather than be disappointed or frustrated by someone else’s endeavours? Life can feel lonely or heavy when you it’s hard to trust that […]
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The power of stillness: 4 questions to ask when you’re busy all the time
There’s always something to do, isn’t there? Friends to see, chores to complete, family time or work, life admin. It can sometimes feel like there is no time in life for anything other than existing. Or maybe life feels very full, in a good way, as if your running from one pleasant thing to another […]
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Impatient for change? The surprising reason why you might be staying the same
You finally decide to pick up the phone. It’s one of the hardest calls you’ve ever had to make. Not just because you might find it difficult to speak to the person on the other end, but because you’ve finally admitting to yourself how bad you really feel. The person at the other end picks […]
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What to do when you feel you have no choice
‘There’s no point even thinking about it’, says Adam*, ‘it’s not like I have a choice.’ We’ve been talking for half an hour, and the topic that comes up again and again in our sessions is how stuck Adam feels in his relationship. Faced with things staying the same, the only other option, in his […]
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25 Ways to Survive Christmas (and family occasions)
As Christmas approaches, you may be relishing the prospect of time off and being with your family. But for many people, Christmas and family occasions can evoke dread, anxiety and depression. It’s less ho ho ho and more no no no. For some it’s the feeling of reverting to childhood roles where, whatever your age […]
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Why is it so hard to say no?
You’re just in the middle of cooking dinner. The phone rings. You look down. It’s mum calling. You pick up for the chat even though it isn’t the best time. She knows this is when you usually have dinner, and yet she always seems to call just now. Something gets burnt, another thing doesn’t get […]
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Why is life so hard sometimes? The hidden message behind pain
Why is it that you can be looking at the most exquisite view, be in the presence of a moment of grace or beauty, be surrounded by those you love and yet be completely and utterly in pain. Nothing can shift the agony of the torment in your body, the thoughts that circle continually, the […]
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5 questions to ask if you feel like running away
There are these moments in life when it all starts to feel too much. Perhaps it’s the continual work demands, stresses and requests that play havoc with your sense of wellbeing. Or maybe your relationship and family life keep going around in circles, the same old arguments, routines. Nothing ever seems to change and you […]
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10 ways to manage feeling overwhelmed and anxious
I’m writing this at a time of great change and huge-scale upheaval. 1000s of people are fleeing their homes and risking their lives to find a safer place to live. People are dying in the most awful of circumstances, trapped in lorries, drowned, crushed, starved, falling ill, being asphyxiated. Solutions are both simple and deeply […]
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How to stop rescuing a moody parent or partner
You’re out having a meal together. So far the evening has gone well. But then something gets said. The atmosphere chills and your partner goes silent on you. It’s a familiar experience by now in your relationship. The thing is, you’ve tried hard in the past to get him / her back to be present […]
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