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Why you hate being the centre of attention
The room goes quiet. Suddenly everyone is looking at me. I start to feel my face flush. My insides begin to squirm. I want to be anywhere but here. The feeling of all those people looking at me, expecting something. My mouth goes dry. I swallow. Will myself into saying something. Anything. As long as it is […]
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The real reason you don’t get heard
It happens again and again. You express a need. It’s met with denial, outrage or dismissal. You’re left bewildered. On the verge of collapse or maybe rage. You’re told you come across as controlling or domineering. It’s hard to calibrate how you ask for things, when you aren’t used to doing it. Or have low expectations of getting those needs […]
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How to deal with a difficult sister or brother [video]
You might fantasize about having the ideal sibling relationship. But the reality? Your relationship with a brother or sister isn’t what you want it to be. You were hoping for an ally, someone who gets what being in your family feels like. Instead you’ve got someone who picks a fight, sides with mum or dad. Or just […]
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4 steps to stop second guessing yourself [video]
Why is it so hard to stick with a decision? How is it that, even when you feel solid, you come back over your choices? Doubt yourself. Question your smartness. Or integrity. Or value in making a choice. In this short video I look at the issue of second guessing yourself and why it’s such a big […]
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The simple way to stop your unhealthy guilt
Your stomach does a flip. Your face gets hot. Your body tightens. Your breath gets more shallow. You start to sweat a bit. The feeling of guilt washes over you. But why? When you stop to think a moment, what did you do? You’re sat at lunch with your family. You mum looks over at you. Says nothing. […]
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Raised by a narcissist? 30 startling signs
With all the talk about narcissism and narcissistic abuse, you may be wondering, does this affect me? If your parent was on the more extreme end of the spectrum, there may be little doubt in your mind, that childhood was uncomfortable, complicated, challenging. You may even describe it as abusive. But for many, their experiences were more […]
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The secret to ending underserved guilt
Guilt’s been on my mind a lot this week. How it creeps into you. Takes you by surprise. Causes constriction and doubt. Stops you in your tracks. If you grew up with emotional neglect or in a narcissistic family, you probably have a hair trigger guilt response. The slightest thing – a look, a phrase, a silence – can […]
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