Category Archives for depression
7 questions to ask if you can’t make time for yourself
Is this the refrain of our age? Not enough time. Too much to do. So many commitments and responsibilities. It can seem an impossible conundrum as your life moves on. You have family ties and friendships to maintain, work and or personal interests, households to run. How can it ever be possible to fit it […]
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Anger troubles? 10 things you absolutely must know
Think of anger, and you probably think of it as something bad. Anger gets a bad press a lot of the time. At its worst, it can be a vehicle for aggression or violence. It can cause pain and fear in others. So it’s not surprising that you might think of it as a negative emotion. Culturally, you […]
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When grief won’t go away: 5 steps to start healing cumulative losses
On the surface, Lianne* feels she should be satisfied with her life. She has many of the things she thought she aspired to: a warm supportive circle of friends, a loving partner, a new job which keeps her stimulated and rewarded. But all isn’t well. She finds herself getting angry at small things, lacking motivation […]
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When depression won’t go away
These may be your darkest days. When it feels like there is no reason to get out of bed, no point in getting dressed, no purpose in speaking to or being with anyone else. Life feels heavy. Your appetite might have gone. Or gone into overdrive. Your sleep may be broken or you might find […]
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What to do when you feel you have no choice
‘There’s no point even thinking about it’, says Adam*, ‘it’s not like I have a choice.’ We’ve been talking for half an hour, and the topic that comes up again and again in our sessions is how stuck Adam feels in his relationship. Faced with things staying the same, the only other option, in his […]
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The trouble with New Year’s resolutions
So where do you stand on new year’s resolutions? Is it a ritual you follow assidiously each year or something you try and struggle with? Or is it just something you laugh off as an irrelevance. What I find interesting about resolutions is the idea that something has to change. The assumption with a […]
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25 Ways to Survive Christmas (and family occasions)
As Christmas approaches, you may be relishing the prospect of time off and being with your family. But for many people, Christmas and family occasions can evoke dread, anxiety and depression. It’s less ho ho ho and more no no no. For some it’s the feeling of reverting to childhood roles where, whatever your age […]
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Why is it so hard to say no?
You’re just in the middle of cooking dinner. The phone rings. You look down. It’s mum calling. You pick up for the chat even though it isn’t the best time. She knows this is when you usually have dinner, and yet she always seems to call just now. Something gets burnt, another thing doesn’t get […]
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Why is life so hard sometimes? The hidden message behind pain
Why is it that you can be looking at the most exquisite view, be in the presence of a moment of grace or beauty, be surrounded by those you love and yet be completely and utterly in pain. Nothing can shift the agony of the torment in your body, the thoughts that circle continually, the […]
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5 questions to ask if you feel like running away
There are these moments in life when it all starts to feel too much. Perhaps it’s the continual work demands, stresses and requests that play havoc with your sense of wellbeing. Or maybe your relationship and family life keep going around in circles, the same old arguments, routines. Nothing ever seems to change and you […]
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