Category Archives for depression

How to beat the holiday blues

  You’re a few days into your holiday. This break has been long awaited. The thought of getting away from work / home life has been in your mind for weeks, if not months. So here you are. It should all be hunky dory right? And yet it doesn’t quite feel that way. It’s a […]

The hidden message behind loneliness and depression

I’m sitting at my desk, laptop infront of me. To my left, my work phone; to my right my personal phone. In my browser window behind, my social networks spew their messages out. And here I am contemplating loneliness. There are times, in what seems to be an increasingly ‘connected’ world where life can feel […]

F*** it, f*** everything and everyone – managing your anger

    Andy* is boiling over with rage. His colleagues are metaphorically ducking for cover again as he starts to build up a head of steam. His voice raises in tone and volume. His face changes to a deeper red. His body seems rigid. It’s a powerful and rather scary sight to behold. The thing […]

The secret highly driven people don’t want you to know

The brave face, the disarming smile. On paper Ellie* has a lot going for her. She’s the kind of person everyone wants to be friends with. People gravitate to her and have done throughout her life.  She describes herself as driven, in all she does. Work has gone well. She studied hard at school and […]

3 reasons why you find it hard to trust and you feel so anxious

‘She’s bound to let me down’ ‘He doesn’t really like me’ ‘She’s only saying that because she feels sorry for me’ ‘That’s not what he’s really thinking about me.’ Do you ever have any of these narratives go on in your head? It’s a bit like watching TV. On screen the people are saying one […]

The problem with saying ‘I’m fine’

You bump into a friend and they ask ‘how are things?’ ‘All good’ you respond.  Never mind that you had an awful morning, a terrible night’s sleep and you are stressed about x and y. There’s this thing, in British culture particularly, of never saying what’s really going on, a bit like talking about the […]

Help! I feel so jealous of my friends’ ‘perfect’ lives

Picture the scene. You’ve just been out for lunch with a group of friends. Yes it was great catching up with your amigos. But funny how it also felt like a bit of a slap in the face. Fran has just had her second promotion in a year and has almost doubled her salary. Jen’s […]

Why falling out of love with work might be the best thing ever for you

The real reason you don’t go to counselling

When you look at yourself, you wonder are you really that broken? Or you think, Counselling? That’s way too self-indulgent. You can sort yourself out. You should be able to get through this (whatever this is) without help. I mean, only people with ‘serious’ problems go to counselling. Anyhow, what would your family think? It’s […]